"Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt."- Urban Dictionary
When I moved to Utah, in the middle of High School (which sucked btw!) Andrea & Nicki were my first friends. Not only did I change to a new high school, a new state, new house, new city, new surroundings which also meant new friends. It was incredibly difficult to not hate my parents for that. Andrea & Nicki both showed so much understanding and compassion. I am so lucky to have best friends like these amazing ladies. We all experienced ups and downs during those challenging years of high school. I could not have survived if it weren't for these girls. Did I mention how challenging those years were?
Sometimes I hear girls complaining about each other. It’s usually based around them being dramatic, catty or gossipy. We all try so hard to be perfect in every way and it seems like every time we turn around someone is doing it better! Well, that’s kind of the problem, duh! Have you noticed that tearing down other people doesn't make you feel better? Infact, the negativity doesn't even bring you happiness. You are making your own life suck by being unhappy and letting negativity grow and seep into other areas of your life. This lesson I learned from Andrea. Instead of the contrary, she'd say "eh, shit happens" and had no problem saying "eat shit and die" without hesitation. "Bite me" was another phrase regularly used.
My best friend Andrea Kaiser was killed last year. It was absolutely the worst day in my entire life. The love of her life was about to purpose to her....just a couple weeks away actually. He bought a beautiful ring. He was everything that she wanted and they passed on together. Not a single day goes by that she doesn't cross my mind. I feel as though my heart has sank a thousand notches and things in my life move on. I wish she was here to share my happy thoughts with. Andrea had such a quick whit, sense of humor, always dependable, friendly, and always cheered me up (sometimes with a classy drink in-hand). She was always there to tell me things would be okay... and they eventually always worked out. Andrea was there during the darkest times of my life and helped me move forward to the happiest. Andrea loved her indoor garden on her kitchen table, mostly strawberries. Andrea loved her beautiful dog, Aurora. She loved polar bears. She loved flowers and vodka.
Her laugh was contagious.
Andrea's loss has had such an impact on my life. My life will never be the same. Her death has tugged at my soul in ways that no one will ever understand unless they're experiencing it too. Moments that Nicki and I have spent reminiscing has helped ease my pain. There were secrets we shared which now remain as memories. I miss her so much it still hurts. I cannot wait until Nicki moves back here! It's going to be one hell of a GNO {girls night out}.
Be the best friend that you deserve to have in your life. Think of her when making plans. Be there for her. Be trustworthy and honest. Try your hardest to cheer her up on sadder days. Give her the best hugs in the world when just chocolate doesn't soothe her soul. Be her shoulder to lean on. Listen (yes, text messages count- just not while driving!) Be forgiving and think positively. Speak kindly. Laugh. Just be the best.
We are never promised tomorrow. Cherish your friends, preserve your memories, and let those memories life on.
When I moved to Utah, in the middle of High School (which sucked btw!) Andrea & Nicki were my first friends. Not only did I change to a new high school, a new state, new house, new city, new surroundings which also meant new friends. It was incredibly difficult to not hate my parents for that. Andrea & Nicki both showed so much understanding and compassion. I am so lucky to have best friends like these amazing ladies. We all experienced ups and downs during those challenging years of high school. I could not have survived if it weren't for these girls. Did I mention how challenging those years were?
Sometimes I hear girls complaining about each other. It’s usually based around them being dramatic, catty or gossipy. We all try so hard to be perfect in every way and it seems like every time we turn around someone is doing it better! Well, that’s kind of the problem, duh! Have you noticed that tearing down other people doesn't make you feel better? Infact, the negativity doesn't even bring you happiness. You are making your own life suck by being unhappy and letting negativity grow and seep into other areas of your life. This lesson I learned from Andrea. Instead of the contrary, she'd say "eh, shit happens" and had no problem saying "eat shit and die" without hesitation. "Bite me" was another phrase regularly used.
My best friend Andrea Kaiser was killed last year. It was absolutely the worst day in my entire life. The love of her life was about to purpose to her....just a couple weeks away actually. He bought a beautiful ring. He was everything that she wanted and they passed on together. Not a single day goes by that she doesn't cross my mind. I feel as though my heart has sank a thousand notches and things in my life move on. I wish she was here to share my happy thoughts with. Andrea had such a quick whit, sense of humor, always dependable, friendly, and always cheered me up (sometimes with a classy drink in-hand). She was always there to tell me things would be okay... and they eventually always worked out. Andrea was there during the darkest times of my life and helped me move forward to the happiest. Andrea loved her indoor garden on her kitchen table, mostly strawberries. Andrea loved her beautiful dog, Aurora. She loved polar bears. She loved flowers and vodka.
Her laugh was contagious.
Andrea's loss has had such an impact on my life. My life will never be the same. Her death has tugged at my soul in ways that no one will ever understand unless they're experiencing it too. Moments that Nicki and I have spent reminiscing has helped ease my pain. There were secrets we shared which now remain as memories. I miss her so much it still hurts. I cannot wait until Nicki moves back here! It's going to be one hell of a GNO {girls night out}.
Be the best friend that you deserve to have in your life. Think of her when making plans. Be there for her. Be trustworthy and honest. Try your hardest to cheer her up on sadder days. Give her the best hugs in the world when just chocolate doesn't soothe her soul. Be her shoulder to lean on. Listen (yes, text messages count- just not while driving!) Be forgiving and think positively. Speak kindly. Laugh. Just be the best.
We are never promised tomorrow. Cherish your friends, preserve your memories, and let those memories life on.